Caregiving & Brain Injury


"Early moments of the dawn used to be my coveted hours, a time filled with the rich possibility of the day. Instead, I now felt our life as a family cinched tight as a belt, circumscribed by Bob’s injury," writes Lee Woodruff. "Those mornings, I barely held it together while I got the kids dressed and off to school and then my husband out the door to his daily rehabilitation therapy. Finally, one morning when they had all gone, I just collapsed, fell onto the couch sobbing in the quiet hush of my home. These were gut-wrenching, back-heaving sobs. I was crying out the whole last few months and tasting the fear of the unknowable coming years."

Oftentimes caregiving can creep up on a person, especially as their loved ones age. But for people like Lee whose loved one sustains a traumatic brain injury, especially a moderate to severe injury, becoming a caregiver can happen suddenly, without warning. One day you are in the office answering emails or out in the garden pulling weeds and the next your loved one is seriously injured and everything has changed.

Few illnesses or injuries result in the devastating and overwhelming damage that can accompany severe brain injury. The loved one who sustains a brain injury is no longer the same person: he or she may behave differently, think differently, and take in the world differently. And when one member of a family changes, the entire family changes.

Learn how to navigate your new role.

Taking care of a loved one with traumatic brain injury can be too much for one person to juggle, especially if that care is full-time. As soon as possible after the injury, it’s helpful to hold a family meeting to figure out how to work cooperatively. The more people participating in care, the less alone a caregiver feels in her role. A circle of care can also include friends, neighbors, or paid caregivers.

Research has shown that people with brain injury who have more support from family and friends — something called family-centered care — tend to have a better outcome and reintegrate into their community with more ease.

Support means different things in different cultures, just as it does for individual families.

Where and how

There are many variables to being a caregiver — age, health, finances, employment, family responsibilities … and the severity of the family member’s injury. Some people will be able to take care of their loved one at home full-time, while others may need to find a full- or part-time residential facility for their injured family member.

Take care of yourself

How can caregivers cope with their situation when there seems to be no end in sight? Here are some coping strategies for caregivers:

Above all else, be kind to yourself. Give yourself credit for all that you do.

Posted on BrainLine June 29, 2017.