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It's like being stuck in a blizzard, but it never ends. It just keeps going and going.
~ Dylan

It may have appeared that an inanimate object was taking the lead in ruining my life but having flat-out refused to give up that modicum of control, I draw back the power from a red light and move forward, by my own choosing.
--Murray Dunlap

its like I am a flip phone and everyone else is a smart phone!

I hate myself or the person that's here now . Things fall out of my memory. The feeling of worthless when I let someone down because something that suspost to be important to me and them just slips out and they think I'm doing it on purpose. I want to be normal again but gets farther away with every second of that clicks by .

I hear you & feel the same way. I worry I will come across as being rude when my freezes up & have to write everything down or I definitely will forget. My therapist reminded me that I have a choice - to share with those around me in what ever capacity feels right & comfortable for me, or not share at all. I'm thinking about this.

I know how you feel I am 13 years out from my 3 brain surgeries.When I started rehab they told me it takes the average person about 18 months and they are good. I was nowhere near good at 18 months or 13 years. Please do not hate anyone especially yourself. You deserve love if you find it hard to make human friends try a dog or cat. Their love is unconditional. 2 things helped me regain a decent amount of my brain speed, I had lost my peripheral vision when my brain swelled and messed with my eyes and my peripheral vision was down to 0%. One year later with the help of brainhq.com I passed my peripheral vision test with 98%. My eye doctor said he never saw this kind of improvement. He did not believe me when I told it was software that improved my vision. He told me that it had to be something else. It wasn't.

I am not joking with you. The first is to have a catch with someone. With a tennis ball stand close to the other person and back and forth with the ball. Catching a ball is a very complicated thing to do especially when you are little farther away and you must follow the ball into your hands. Do this at least 3 times a week and take a walk as often as possible.

The next thing is a great brain training product. It is the best of its kind on the market. if you want it to work it you must commit to doing it at least 5 days a week 30 minutes minimum. Your head may hurt after your session.But its worth it. The brain is a muscle and this program is a very strenuous in the beginning but if you do it 5 or 6 days a week and I think you will see a difference in 6 weeks or less. The web site is. brainhq.com I do not know what it costs now but it is worth it. I know because whenever I stop I go backwards and I am back hard at work. I feel very good about myself as I progress. It is an amazing product. Good Luck. Ira

I'm not the one that has the brain injury, but my boyfriend does. He was on drugs for a long time and finally got off them. He unfortunately relapse once and he overdosed. Which that was the reason for the brain injury. But I've been reading up on it. And he keeps saying that people are trying to hurt him, not to mention me!! It's very heartbreaking, because I love him very much. He gets so angry in a split second, and says that he doesn't care if I get hurt, thing's like that. I really need to know if this is normal? If someone can please email me and help. Give me some pointers that would be wonderful. Thank you!

Trying to get through a storm in my head

The fear of not knowing what you forgot.

I love that!

Like building a house with no foundation. Jason

Missing the person you were and never being that same person ( personality, strength and same wisdom) ever again. The simplest thing can be a very big challenge. Memories are locked away you want them back. Like watching a movie you know youve seen before but not remembering the dynamics

Trying to catch my breath 24/7

Involved in a serious motorcycle accident. The ONE thing I do to make every problem in my life temporarily dissappear. The one thing I did. I am lost. I am scared. Not being able to describe it is one of the scariest parts. It's like that feeling before the most important job interview of your life, mixed with watching someone hold a knife to your child's throat mixed with your stomach turning when the roller coaster your on drops down a huge hill. But feeling it as soon as your eyes open in the morning, while getting ready for work, while working then coming home knowing tomorrow isn't going to be better. It's been two years but my memory makes me feel like it was last week.

So I also have the same problem with time and space. My accidents were in 2013 and 15. My life has changed. You are not alone. I wish I could talk with those who would understand. Like you my Brother.

I just wanted you to know from a person with a plate in my head that you are not alone but drugs and alcohol are not the path to a satisfying lifestyle.

It’s like taking a walk down a familiar road that you’ve been down before and everything is brand new. Everything is hard, everything. Marty

being dropped into another person's life

I was a loving husband and a proud grandparent. now my family never know who will walk out of the darkened room I now hide in alone, the sullen stranger, the screaming fool, or the one I hate most the crying baby

Living in a strangers body for the rest of your life while relearning everything all over again.

Angry, frustrated, emotional in shock. What happened? It's been 3 months since my brain infection abscess surgery. I can walk and talk but feel dead inside

It's like a tornado of information spinning overhead,things start to slow down,make sense then the switch is turned off and
I realize I have no idea what is happening

Ear pain and agitation and ear pain

A devastating loss of self, a stranger in my own body, feeling like I’m walking through a muddy fog

It's exactly that. You are not alone. I feel the exact same way.

It’s like living in a constant state of blackout . Jo

I've learned that while at work compiling, recalling, juxtaposing data, and executing action plans to keep ideas and data swirling around in a thought vortex to have access to in formation without attempting to force retrieving memory, which causes debilitating pain with a tbi. Hope it benefits anyone.

Some days its like a nightmare you cant wake up from.

Like A misunderstood child living in an Adults body Somedays just wanting to curl up & Not have to talk or think, Feeling Mentally exhausted & Drained unable to speak up as no-one ever Truly understands they just Judge & Corner You to sadness - Leaving you suffering Inside as its all too much :( written by Marie M

I send you a hug in the Spirit from across the miles...

Constantly battling an invisible enemy, always feeling under attack but mostly I’m not in control of myself a maniac is

Now my brain is like a old pinball machine.
Only this one has 4 sets of flippers, 9 bumpers and 3 active balls constantly.

I have Tbi from an assault. A lot of people pretend they actually care about me and really don’t. It took a lot for me to forgive everyone who has hurt me mentally verbally physically and many different ways. It took a lot for me to bounce back. I stay away from toxic people and it seems my boundaries have been disrespected. I love me. I pray to God everyday that he keeps toxic people away from me. And just because I didn’t go through having surgery for having Tbi I went through a lot of hurtful things. People think it’s okay and funny to try to relate to me when they’re not me. I’m happy to be in a healthier relationship even though sometimes I feel like I’m just a burden to him. My self independency I don’t need anyone trying to manipulate me at all. Being a Survivor of Tbi is who I am. I don’t like if anyone pry in my life at all. I have migraines every now and then from me having Tbi. That hurts a lot. I don’t trust no psychiatrist or psychologist either because they caused me a lot of anguish. So, I do my best everyday after having had Tbi in 2013. People seem to believe that Tbi and Ptsd only comes from being in the military but that’s false. I felt like no one cared enough to even stop and think themselves how much I hurted. But, I’m very grateful I have someone now who loves me past my Tbi and trauma. I’m a happy owner of my chihuahua cincere who’s been a lot of support for me. I do my best not to give up on praying that my life will get better. So to all of us who has trauma and or Tbi we are loved.

Chihuahuas are life savers! I'm so glad you have your darling pup. Oh they make life & everything in it brighter & better. When in doubt, cuddle with your furry friend. Much love your way.

It took all of what I could find to smile about. Took my life without me.

My name is Nancy Burnet. I experienced a traumatic brain injury April 29, 2016, just 2 months and 3 weeks after having aortic valve surgery due to complications caused by breast cancer treatment dating back to 1880 and 1981. An 89-year-old man driving a rental car at twilight literally turned a corner and hit me in the head; this could only be possible because I had stepped off the curb and turned my body a little to the left as I bent over to look at grocery items in my cart. His view may have been obstructed somewhat by a small tree, a bench and trash cans at the bus stop next to where I was. The fact that I was on plavix (a blood thinner) would greatly complicate my recovery. The man did take me to the nearest hospital a mere two blocks away and waited there in his car. From there I was taken by ambulance to the University of Pennsylvania Trauma Center in Philadelphia. After the ambulance arrived, I had absolutely no memory of the next six days I was in the trauma center. I spent approximately one month in one rehab and another month in another. My most significant concern after all this is that my balance is greatly impaired and I'm prone to falling; I was also left with an incontinence issue. Having diabetes has also added to my difficulties in life--a disease extremely common to my mother's side of the family. I also take humira for plaque psoriasis, a disease prevalent on my father's side of the family. Another complication resulting from breast cancer treatment in 1980-81 is lymphedema. It usually manifests itself 2-5, at the most 10 after surgery and radiation has been administered. Fortunately, it took 28 and 1/2 years to develop, and considering it is a difficult condition to manage at least I had all those years I didn't have to deal with the condition. An atrophied muscle in my back near my shoulder area due to a nerve being severed during the surgery for a mastectomy has limited the use of my right arm. Getting back to the brain injury: My recovery was remarkable, considering the bleeding on the brain that occurred due to being required to take plavix after the aortic valve replacement; the bleeding on the brain necessitated an emergency craniotomy surgery when I was admitted to the University of Pennsylvnia Trauma Center. The piece of skull was frozen then replaced under my scalp in I surgery in August of 2016. So this is my story. At 74 going on 75 I am living independently in an apartment for seniors. Because of my balance issues and the broken up pavements and streets, as well as high curbs, I take a four-wheeled walker which has space for groceries and other purchases with me when I walk outside. I also walk a mile and a half in my hallway (63 lengths of the hallway). I'm working on increasing that the 2 miles. I need to focus more attention on balance exercises presently; it difficult to balance myself on one leg at a time for more than 4 second--the goal is to be able to do that for 10 seconds.

Ma'am. I'm a 36 year old man originally from Pittsburgh but now reside in Columbus ohio. I just wanted to say, you are a very remarkable, very strong woman. Your story gave me a little push I needed lately. If you have Facebook you can type Jonathan Weaver Columbus Ohio. My picture is me on a red motorcycle. I hope you make your 2 mile mark. After reading your story, I know you will.

You are a role model! May I get as far & find a world I can be part of.

Trying to reconfigure life while dealing with new feelings and thoughts I can no longer control

Having a injured brain feels like the lights are on but no one is home..i look in the mirror and see my reflection it must be me but i dont feel like i used to or recognise my self anymore ..im not the same inside as i mite stil on the outside... annette..s..

I could not agree with you more. Mine happened 3 years ago and I am still doing the same exact thing. Wondering what is going on.

It’s a new way of life. You are a new you, but you never realize until you think about it. Everything feels normal, and you feel like everything is how it should be. But then you look back. You remember. You remember how things used to be. You remember how you would never get mad, or how you would rarely be outspoken. Then you look at yourself and it’s like looking at a stranger. There is the you before the accident, and the you after. Two you’s, and they’re sometimes night and day. You miss the old you, and you wonder why. Why? It’s not like you switched bodies with someone. It’s not like most people would notice a crazy difference. But you do. You notice, and it eats at you. The differences and changes. All of it. The fact that you’ll never be the same. The fact that you’ll never be 100%. It eats at you and it’s depressing. But it’s also just one more hurdle. One more mountain for you to climb. One more struggle. One more fight. To make yourself better. To show not just everyone else, but yourself that it doesn’t matter. That the new you is not worse. That you can learn to live as a new you. To leave your mark. To show everyone you’re not someone to pity. To show them that that 5% doesn’t define you, YOU do.

I totally get this... I'm a TBI survivor of 22 years and still deal with this... I feel your pain... I wished I didn't have this from a severe car accident due to a boyfriend that did pot behind the wheel... it's hard to pick up the pieces and move on however we can do this. We will get there together.

Very well said!!! I'm not quite able to put it into words yet... A contstant struggle it definitely is... It's a whole "NEW" normal for sure... Its great to read from the optimisic point of view... I still am an optimist and I am very grateful that I am :) thank you for your time. If anyone knows of any online support groups, please let me know...It may always be a struggle, however, I do know... With persistence, I will learn new ways and recovery will continue and the "NEW" normal will be all that it is meant to be... For now, no worries and keep smiling :)

Everything is hard for my mind. Things I thought of automatically now take a lot of time.

Like my legs are made of clubs. You probably don’t even think about your legs when you’re walking. Mine are big and clumsy.

I was brain injured thirty five years ago. By now my definition is:

The constant presence of my former self as a shadow in the fog. It is just beyond my fingertips, and I miss me.

So very well said. My injury was only nine years ago. Like you, I miss me.

I love Alison's description. I posted it onnmy FB along with my own description fleshing it out based on my experience. Here is it.

"Read the quote then continue reading here. It is so true. Some places that "came down" or stayed up made sense. The weak structures crumbled while the strong ones held. But then I come to other places and I wonder why are you still here? Why didn't you come down in the quake? Or where did this or that go? It was so strong. The quake should not have caused that much damage.

It was not just the structures that were damaged but the infrastructure as well. Communications, economy, safety, government, etc were damaged. Some more than others.

Communication - not only is it difficult to communicate with other cities (people) but also to communicate within the city itself (myself). Needs to unmet, thoughts unfinished because communication lines are down.

Economy - resources are damaged and now limited. Some areas are better off and have more resources, others are struggling to survive. Sometimes large amounts of resources are poured into one area leaving other areas desperate. For me this is usually the resource of energy.

Safety - the area itself is now unsafe. Though the initial danger is gone, unstable structures, leaks, fire hazards and unknown damages pose risks. As I started recovery and continue to do so I found other issues that posed risks to myself such as impaired balance and deteriorated eyesight.

Government - the structures that were in place to maintain law and order are not only damaged but also strained as they deal with the crisis. Some will find this an opportunity to break rules and law. Others, with limited resources, may need to in order to survive. I found this true primarily in my mental and emotional health but also physical. Emotional- regulation can difficult. Sometimes I'm not sure why I'm having a panic attack or why I'm sad. Other times I know why I'm frustrated but I don't know what to do about it. Physically, my body may not be able to handle the stresses it is being put through and just shut itself down rather than find a more logical way of handling the situation.

There are other issues that fit better into other categories but this gives a general idea. I saw the quote, written by another TBI survivor, on a website I frequent and it described what I've been through so clearly that I had to share it. I also wanted to expand on it to share more of what I've experienced."

A continual blur with both brief and long interruptions of confusion, forgetting, and hoping that is never met with a never ending sense of visually blatant vulnerability to everything and everyone as if I'm a child that cant reach adulthood.