The Truth About Divorce After Traumatic Brain Injury

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After my husband's accident he is definitely not the person I married. I will wake up to a different person each day never knowing what mood he will be in or what type of person he will be. Most days he is bearable and others I want to run away. What type of person would I be for leaving him when this wasn't his fault? But do I deserve to be miserable for the rest of my life? I have struggled with this for a long time....

I feel exactly the same way- 11 years post stroke and I am at my breaking point, now has white matter disease, only more miserable as he loses more memory, and function. What kind of person leaves after 40 years of marriage. I feel I should just ride it out.

His tbi injury happened 15 years ago and there's almost not a day that goes by that he does something to remind me he is not the person I fell in love with. I'm often like "who is this guy" and "why did this happen to us?" I am so sad because our lives should have been so different. Had I met him and he was like this I never would have been in a relationship with him. I hate my life with this stranger. Why? Just why?

I find myself making poor decisions in my marriage and work life.  I like to think its unrelated to my injury but I don't know after reading this and other articles.  My injury was about seven and a half years ago which seems to be about the magic number for things to really unravel.  

After my injury my wife of 6 yrs , girlfriend of 20 baby mama of 12 left stating I was no longer the guy she married. I have to say I would not have done the same.

I had a brain injury in 2008, I was in hospital and physiotherapy for 6 months,I wasn't married but as my girlfriend of 2 years was there for me I decided to marry her that will come back to backfire on me. I was a party man and was out all the time plus I followed my football team all over the country. After the accident I had to learn how to walk and talk again as I was paralysed down one side of the body.
The girl , knew what she was getting into as we didn't get married until 2012, but still brought my injury up all the time and would say DO YOU SEE WHAT I NEED TO PUT UP WITH, when I would forget something with my memory loss. I had a lot of money and when my savings got low she said I want out, I cant put up with you anymore and finished it at the end of 2018. I changed as a person and wasn't confident and let her walkover the top of me, and since we have split I have my confidence back and my old personality is coming back. At the end of the day its a bad thing at the time but in the long run its so much better.

How did you correct for your acknowledged statistical bias in your study sample ("only 15% of subjects were separated or divorced"), when the separated/divorce rate in the general population is higher?