Lost & Found: What Brain Injury Survivors Want You to Know

Barbara J. Webster, Lash & Associates
Lost & Found: What Brain Injury Survivors Want You to Know

I need a lot more rest than I used to. I’m not being lazy. I get physical fatigue as well as a “brain fatigue.” It is very difficult and tiring for my brain to think, process, and organize. Fatigue makes it even harder to think.

My stamina fluctuates, even though I may look good or “all better” on the outside. Cognition is a fragile function for a brain injury survivor. Some days are better than others. Pushing too hard usually leads to setbacks, sometimes to illness.

Brain injury rehabilitation takes a very long time; it is usually measured in years. It continues long after formal rehabilitation has ended. Please resist expecting me to be who I was, even though I look better.

I am not being difficult if I resist social situations. Crowds, confusion, and loud sounds quickly overload my brain, it doesn’t filter sounds as well as it used to. Limiting my exposure is a coping strategy, not a behavioral problem.

If there is more than one person talking, I may seem uninterested in the conversation. That is because I have trouble following all the different “lines” of discussion. It is exhausting to keep trying to piece it all together. I’m not dumb or rude; my brain is getting overloaded!

If we are talking and I tell you that I need to stop, I need to stop NOW! And it is not because I’m avoiding the subject, it’s just that I need time to process our discussion and “take a break” from all the thinking. Later I will be able to rejoin the conversation and really be present for the subject and for you.

Try to notice the circumstances if a behavior problem arises. “Behavior problems” are often an indication of my inability to cope with a specific situation and not a mental health issue. I may be frustrated, in pain, overtired or there may be too much confusion or noise for my brain to filter.

Patience is the best gift you can give me. It allows me to work deliberately and at my own pace, allowing me to rebuild pathways in my brain. Rushing and multi-tasking inhibit cognition.

Please listen to me with patience. Try not to interrupt. Allow me to find my words and follow my thoughts. It will help me rebuild my language skills.

Please have patience with my memory. Know that not remembering does not mean that I don’t care.

Please don’t be condescending or talk to me like I am a child. I’m not stupid, my brain is injured and it doesn’t work as well as it used to. Try to think of me as if my brain were in a cast.

If I seem “rigid,” needing to do tasks the same way all the time; it is because I am retraining my brain. It’s like learning main roads before you can learn the shortcuts. Repeating tasks in the same sequence is a rehabilitation strategy.

If I seem “stuck,” my brain may be stuck in the processing of information. Coaching me, suggesting other options or asking what you can do to help may help me figure it out. Taking over and doing it for me will not be constructive and it will make me feel inadequate. (It may also be an indication that I need to take a break.)

You may not be able to help me do something if helping requires me to frequently interrupt what I am doing to give you directives. I work best on my own, one step at a time and at my own pace.

If I repeat actions, like checking to see if the doors are locked or the stove is turned off, it may seem like I have OCD — obsessive-compulsive disorder — but I may not. It may be that I am having trouble registering what I am doing in my brain. Repetitions enhance memory. (It can also be a cue that I need to stop and rest.)

If I seem sensitive, it could be emotional lability as a result of the injury or it may be a reflection of the extraordinary effort it takes to do things now. Tasks that used to feel “automatic” and take minimal effort, now take much longer, require the implementation of numerous strategies and are huge accomplishments for me.

We need cheerleaders now, as we start over, just like children do when they are growing up. Please help me and encourage all efforts. Please don’t be negative or critical. I am doing the best I can.

Don’t confuse Hope for Denial. We are learning more and more about the amazing brain and there are remarkable stories about healing in the news every day. No one can know for certain what our potential is. We need Hope to be able to employ the many, many coping mechanisms, accommodations and strategies needed to navigate our new lives. Everything single thing in our lives is extraordinarily difficult for us now. It would be easy to give up without Hope.

Posted on BrainLine July 28, 2011. Reviewed July 25, 2018.

Excerpted from Lost & Found: A Survivor's Guide for Reconstructing Life After a Brain Injury by Barbara J. Webster. © 20ll by Lash & Associates Publishing/Training Inc. Used with permission. Click here for more information about the book.

Comments (664)

So glad I saw this post!! It's been 2 1/2 years since my accident and I still get frustrated trying to explain these things to people. This is a good way to show people what we go through and how we are trying to cope. I think the worst thing I hear from people is, You still are not back to work? Why, you look fine and you seem like your normal self?!? With the struggles pointed out here, are the main reasons I cannot do my job as dental assistant. But I am coping with what I have and take everyday as a new day and new achievements! Most of all it is good to have such a great family support (cheerleaders) in my corner who don't allow me to give up! Thanks again for this !

Thank you so much for taking everything I feel and do and putting into words that my friends and family can understand. Sending good thoughts and hope for a progressive recovery.

This is a amazing story and absolutely true. I had an Cerebral AVM removed from my Right Frontal lobe in January 2016. Since I can remember I had suffered from really bad headaches and chronic tiredness. After the surgery both has improved but now almost 5 month later - I am NOT feeling myself. Everything written here is so true and people, loved ones and family don't really understand the seriousness of the matter. Even at work, I just keep to myself and to what needs to be done. I am taking everything slowly and that is frustrating to myself. BUT I know that my brain is recovering and healing on it's own time. No need to rush! I'm still alive and have SO MUCH too be thankful for!!

Thank you. I have a Tbi from car accident two and a half years ago. My physical injuries are bad but not as bad as losing long time friends who say things like "you need to move on" and "you're fine). Absolutely no one understands me I'm on an island which is gradually shrinking

I am so happy I read your post..my 28 year old son had a stroke and brain bleed he had surgery and an AVM Removed from his brain..June 13 2015...what you wrote will help me to understand him much better...he is a single father with custody of his two children. ..He struggles so much since he can't read or write. ..and he wears out real easy...Now I understand him more...thanks

Thank you very much for your article.  Reading this has made me feel "normal"  in my world.   I am a survivor of ABI through surgery and concussions for over 25 years.  Wish more people had an opportunity to learn about associating with people like myself.  Thank you again.

I have been suffering from tbi since I was 2 and I am almost 40 now, it affects not just myself but my partner as well, even I admit I have some of the worst memory I have even heard about, a good example is my old work, I was there for over 4 years as a store manager at a pizza shop and to this day I can only make 3 by memory out of roughly 36 pizza's, Like a lot of people in my situation I worked around my problem but it's now to a point that it's out of control, after reading a few stories on here it's given me hope again and will seek further medical advice.

just know that my prayers are with everyone that has tbi I know the feeling I wrecked my truck and when the EMS found me I was fifteen ft from my truck i had brain surgery when I got to ER I was in ICU for two months I'm getting to go back to my job but every day is tough in many ways. If you're struggling with tbi then my thoughts and prayers are with you

Thank you to the group for putting together this list because this explains everything that I am feeling and going through that I couldn't put into words so my family and friends can understand what I'm going through. bless you all

This is my second comment only because I feel like I could meet you and relate to everything you have and are currently suffering from, because I could place myself in your place for each action and then wonder WHY? Sooo I quit wondering why and worked on acceptance of which I fight with each and every day, I PRAY A LOT if it wasn't for my spirituality my spirit would be broken and healing wouldn't be part of the process!

My name is Kristy I suffered a big Traumatic brain injury in 2014 it is 2016 and still things arise physically and mentally related to my injury. My children were 16 and 18 when it happened and my daughter who is 20 now has some compassion and care for me, there was an inbetween area she hated me thought I was faking. My son now 18 moved into his Grandmother and Grandfather's home and I think he hates me I want to help him and wondered if due to a parent's disability or injury there were supports to help for scholarships to anyone who knows I would appreciate any help with that or adjusting to the attitude change within people in my life I love my kids so much I shed tears every day due to their actions or thoughts given to me verbally my email jollyollylolly5@charter.net I will take any help

Actually, I am long time Traumatic brain injury victim since 1987 , I was 11 years old at that time. I hope that I died at this day. I had a fracture in my skull, broken skull. and i was unconscious for 7 hours then before i wake up they give me a medicine to keep sleeping until the doctor clean the blood before reaching the brain. the accident had effected the left side of my brain. just I was walking on the pavement near my school in saudi arabia. and a car hit me , hit traffic light and hit the wall. i am 40 years old now but i feel like 90 years old with no power due to the medication it take to be able to function like a human.

My husband was in a Motorcycle accident back in August and also suffered a brain injury (TBI). Many of the things you said, sounds very much like him. He is still healing and is also looking for those who are or have been in the same situation. He has talked with a friend who has TBI and that seems to help but I truly wish I understood completely. No matter what I research or talk about with others, it's also very rough for me. I don't want to come off as though I'm not trying, I just do not understand completely enough to assure him and comfort him the right way even though I try. I know it's rough on all involved but the most important is the one who is dealing with it. I hope he sees this and is open to talk to others like you and hopefully we can all benefit from this.

Wow. So reading these stories are like watching a trailer for a movie about the last 7 months of my life. I am Amanda Sowell and I was in a traumatic car wreck in August of 2015 we swerved a deer and in result over corrected and hit a tree and ever though the airbag worked and the seatbelt somehow I still tryed to exit out of the windshield. I'm not good at that. Any way I had a very large gash in my head and 2 anuerisms , fractured jaw in 4 places , and the injuries keep coming. Now that my brain doesn't hurt all these other things are hurting. Go figure. I don't even remember the first 3-4 months of being home. Because I had no insurance they rushed me out of the door of the hospital after 4 short days. I wasn't ready and neither was my family. Especially my 3 boys 2 in which have autism. This is a complete 360 of my life prior to my accident. I'm very strong willed , stubborn and self reliant. I had to be for my boys. That's definitely changed. They've helped me through so much and they are my inspiration every day to try a little harder. Haha the brain operates everything. The memory loss and confusion and physical and mental fatigue are exhausting. The kind of exhaustion I never knew till now. And the emotional ups and downs are as well as the mood swings and the sensory overload , don't even want to get started on that. It would be so easy to give up but that's not an option for me, I can't. I've endured all this with nothing more than the love of my God , my family and ibuprofen. No physical or occupational therapy or counseling just faith. I know my journeys no where near over and that's ok. I'll get there. I also have third nerve palsy as a result of the bleeding on my brain which is basically an injury to the third cranial nerve that controls your eye along with some issues with partial paralyzation of the right side of my body. New injuries keep popping up so like I said I'm not done. I was a nurse and kept the elderly that had Alzheimer's and 2 of my boys are autistic. I completely understand what they are going through now. I can totally relate. With every story I read I feel emotionally drawn to each and every one of you. Let's keep writing and telling our stories. We are part of each other's recovery process. I personally thank each and everyone of you for sharing. And I am praying for us all.

I have a severe tbi in 2002 and was in coma for a month, with many physical injuries. Through all my rehab, etc., I managed to start college and somehow through hard work, made it and ended with a masters degree. The problem is I feel forever LOST. My memory, still a problem, I get overwhelmed very easily, I have mood swings, no patience, frustrated, etc. Etc. The ways they say to cope, have not helped because I need a full time job to function in this world and live, how does one have a life with this disability? I never seem to find the answer and nobody truly gets how difficult it is. They really have no clue.

I am 23 years post tbi and for years I counted on things getting better as time healed wounds. This simply doesn't happen with injuries as severe as mine and IV accepted the fact that I get worse with each passing year, but I learn to handle it better. The hardest part is dealing with other people. Hearing their comments like "you look fine" or "u don't seem disabled". Or when you try to explain self-hate or self-harm to them. First, if their still around after telling them about it, you've made a good start! I find most people leave n never look back. The ones who actually stay n try to understand but, of course, can't, I sum it up by telling them "its ok. I'm documented, certified crazy..." They seem to accept that as a reasonable explanation.😉 I just have to say I never in a million years knew the human body and mind could put up with so much pain, torture, hopelessness, loneliness, and fear as mine has. God made us stronger than I ever knew. I died 5 times that day of my accident, and the good Lord brought me back each and every time, so I must be here for some reason. Maybe to bring these words to you... God bless and keep you all. Never, ever give up. God is good.. Thanks for listening.

Firstly, i'm sorry to hear about both your TBI & anything related to it. I also have a TBI caused by an underage drunk driver who was 2x over the limit, on the wrong side of the street & speeding as he struck my vehicle & drove straight into the left side of my body without touching his brakes (t-bone/min estimated speed@ +75mph). Idk how far away you are from the injury date & Idk if everyone has a similar situation regarding their initial TBI experience but I noticed how extremely impatient I was & how irritated I became during the first few seconds upon discharge of the hospital. I'm not sure when that lessened or if I've just learned to quickly remove myself frm the triggers as time went on, but it does get better/easier- as with all things.

Living with a brain injury is like putting a kaleidoscope over your eyes getting in a car with a blind driver with the throttle stuck all the way on staying like that for years and then trying to cross a busy inter section in rush hour traffic.

Hi there my name is Wendy Watt and i am still getting very angry and upset over the little things. It is hard knowing what I have been through and how hard it is to explain to people about having a head injury. I do not talk about it but i am getting there. I am a very hard person to live with as my husband will tell you and everyone that i have lived with. I am grateful for all the people that have stood by my side through the whole process. I still do not no why I have to live with it but I have to. I get a vary of questions about my scars that are on my face and I just say to them I was in an accident. I do not talk about it as it hurts me as I lost a really good friend.

Cheers and thanks for hearing my story if that is what you want to call it.

Dear March 30th, first, know that your loved one is very fortunate to have your support, it can make all the difference.  If your loved one has not had speech & language or cognitive therapy, that is the best place to start, not only for help  with speech & language skills but also with memory & organization.  Some other suggestions would be to try to get her involved in a hobby she has or even had as a child. Her personal interest might help motivate her.  You can also try playing board games or working on something like jig saw puzzles together.  The fun, relaxed atmosphere might stimulate conversation.  Something else to try could be exposure to pets or animals.  People often talk more to animals than pets.  Last but not least, just be patient with her when she does speak, allowing her to take the time she needs to make the connections in her brain and find her words, unless of course she asks for help.  It will help her build confidence and her language skills.  She can also use all of the positive comments and encouragement you can give her, without sounding condescending.  I hope this is helpful.  Blessings, Barbara

Hi, I have a loved one with brain damage I would like to know what I can do for her to help her with her memory and her speech because she doesn't talk at all but she can. Is there any way that I could help her with all this? Any help would be appreciated thank you she was in a car wreck also

Ok I have always wanted to give back and yes I truly am now! At 18 I was in a car accident and suffered a TBI, I was in a coma for about 2 1/2 weeks. My recovery was slow, very sad, alone a lot thank God for my parents. I always had goals and dream. I wanted to walk, then run then go to college with the medical professionals saying I would be lucky to be able to stay by myself.  Today I am 45 with 2 awesome and very intelligent daughters.  I have 2 masters degree with the most recent and my true passion Rehabilitation Counseling. I work as an advocate helping folks with disabilities receiving what their plan says and starting to counsel privately. I also teach spinning (indoor bicycling) 2 days a week and work out 5-6 days a week. I umpire baseball and softball in the spring and summer.  I will say I do NOT have enough time or space to list all the times I have failed or been fired from jobs.  With that being said I would never stop, I always looked for what I could do or try next after losing a job or failing at some event.  I had a great support team with my parents and brothers.  However like I said before I am 45 and only the last 3 years have been truly the best years since my TBI.  I wake up everyday looking forward to the day and excited.  I never thought I would ever be this happy again but after all the hard work and finally finding work that I love and embrace and they embrace me I can truly say my TBI is past tense.  I am open to communicating or talking to anyone that reads this letter and wants to chat. Here is my email charlesbrose@msn.com  Thanks,

Charles Rose

In my journey back to reality I have found this site and others to be extremely helpful in this transformation.

Laughing when I'm searching for a word is neither humorous nor helpful. Pressing me for a response in a crowd is also not helpful. Sometimes trying to respond in a crowd puts me in the position of repeating what I hear someone else saying the middle of my response. It's both irritating and distressing. Maybe you can function with half your brain tied behind you but I can't.

I had my injury 10 years ago now, without all the support from other tbi survivors and lots of wonderful people I probably wouldn't be where I am today with a wonderful family and grateful for all I have. Heck I even recorded my own cd, I'm not some amazing singer I just needed to keep the challenge in my life and not give up as can sometimes without support out there. Don't give up everyone we all have a purpose even if only to be there for others just starting this frightening journey x

It's like being trapped inside of your own body and brain, never being able to escape or understand. Kristin

I fell down and hit my head so hard that i broke my neck at C5-C6. It took 9 month for the doctors to diagnose and performed surgery. even after 6 years and in constant pain management I have been in total denial. I was reading a recent medical report from my doctor and it said TBI. I cried when I read this article because I have completely dismiss the fact that my brain still in recovery. I am not allowed by my doctor to do more than 20 minutes of Zumba a day only twice a week. Yet I try to behave like a normal person. I have TBI , It sucks, I want to be treated with compassion but this is only going to happen if I have this compassion for myself.

Thank you, I needed to read and come to terms with TBI!

I CAN RELATE TO THIS POST 7 / 12 / 1991 PLEASE CONTINUE YOUR ADVOCACY LIFE AFTER DRINKING AND DRIVING I LOVE YOUR POST

This article should be read by everyone that has suffered from or they them self is suffering from: https://www.dovepress.com/treatments-for-traumatic-brain-injury-with-emphasis-on-transcranial-ne-peer-reviewed-article-NDT

I have recently started to date a friend of 2 years for 2.5 months now, and not being intimately involved with him until now, I am surprised by how different he is than what I thought him to be.  He told me in a conversation once, that he gets migraines due to a mountain biking accident he had (hit his head in a helmet and compressed his neck/spine).  I feel so very heartbroken at how he treats me, yet - for some reason I love him and am still with him.  It seems at times that he is a completely different person than I thought he was.  He is a good, kind, generous, loving person - but then he will behave so "selfishly" and hurtfully that it tears me apart.  I don't think he knows he behaves like this. I feel like breaking it off with him because it hurts so much.  But then I remembered his story about his head trauma and decided to research that.  What I have read here written by courageous TBI survivors has given me something to think about.  Thank you so much for sharing, and for easing some of the pain in my heart.

I fell and hit the right side of my head on concrete in July of 2015.  I went to ER and had four staples.  I had a cat scan that was normal and was sent home and told I would likely be better in a few days but to follow up with my family doctor in a week.  I was far from better.  The world was spinning and I could barely move.  I had issues with both light and noise often wearing two pairs of sunglasses while in my home.  The headaches were awful.  I saw my doctor and she wrote me off work for another two weeks and referred me to vestibular therapy.  This therapy helped a great deal as the vertigo finally eased.  My life however felt like it was still upside down as other symptoms persisted and due to balance and perception issues I was still limited in my abilities.  I work in a stressful and fast pace environment but it is a job I love because the people and youth that I work with are amazing.   I am also a bit of a work-a-holic and a control freak.  All of a sudden I found myself in a completely helpless situation.    I felt so depressed and I cried almost daily.  I am now on long term disability and have finally had to accept that this is my new life, for now.  The reality that this situation is likely going to take at least a year for me to recover from this injury has helped me manage some frustration as I know this is going to take time and that I have to be patient.  I have often spoken with others who have brain injuries and realize, this could have been a lot worse.  I believe that everything happens for a reason and that maybe this injury has occurred because I need to learn to relax more, slow down in life, and focus on the things that matter.  I still struggle with processing information, headaches, and nausea that comes with motion but I continue to work with my doctor, a neurologist, a physiotherapist, an occupational therapist, and I try to maintain monthly massages due to some neck pain.  Hearing other survivor stories are helpful as I know I am not alone.  I have also learned the importance of trying to be optimistic of the gains I have made, no matter how small they are. 

This made me cry. It absolutely is the way I feel and couldn't convey it. Before my car accident I was an extroverted, happy, up and coming actor/writer, and a doting loving father. and since my concussion 2 YEARS AGO I have been an angry, frustrated loner seeking help from doctors that has yet to come. My family is loving and does its best to help me but I'm sure their frustrated with my slow improvement. Thank you for sharing this

January 16th, it sounds like you have done very well after your concussions but you may want to think about a different career, one where you aren't required to work at a fast pace, where you can be more successful.  Speed of processing is not usually a strength after a brain injury.

Barbara

Dear Jan. 17th, please call the Brain Injury Association of whatever state you live in for guidance and resources and support groups.  You are not alone!

Barbara

I remember a severe blow to the head at 3.  I fell and cracked my skull at 9 (lost consciousness) In late teens and early 20's ,I was thrown from a car (lost consciousness). When 35, I fainted from illness and passed out, slamming my head into the doorway molding, then losing consciousness ( not sure of the time from fall to time when my eyes opened up ( looking at the ceiling.)

Now. my 50s, I suffered a blow to the head that left me "stunned". My last accident was 8 weeks after the blow and my balance was not at it's best. I landed head first onto concrete.

Here is obstacle..Please ANYONE.?

My Parents, siblings, and 2 of my 4 adult children do not speak to me. I am accused of being on drugs (I am not). also told that I am "not right", and that I repeat myself... I was not invited to Thanksgiving  or Christmas. My feeling are hurt deeply...almost to the point of leaving me useless...has anyone been in this ? What can I do (I just called a parent today and was told I should call more)  :(   as I the only one who is sitting and shocked?

I have had 6 concussions, one due to a near deadly car accident. I used to be really sharp but, now honestly I feel dumb. Things don't come as fast to me. I have to ask people to say things twice because I don't pick up on it the first time. I work in a fast pace kitchen, and I, at times feel like am a week link. It's disheartening because I feel like I'm not me and I don't understand why. It's a struggle, I don't sleep and it's hard to explain why I'm depressed. People don't understand.

It has been almost 23 years since I got TBI due to a car accident in 1993.  Everyone thinks I am fine because I look fine, and I just physically look fine, I have worked a few jobs since then, however I do not seem to be able to continue working at these jobs, mostly because if I ever make any kind of mistake, no one ever thinks of it as having anything to do with my TBI, because they don't think of me as having TBI because I really dont seem to have anything wrong with me. I've read the above information and it is so true and relieving to hear that other people actually have the same problem I do.

Excellent. Never had read or able to put all those thoughts together. TBI survivor almost 34 yrs.

I am crying because, I have found more like me.   I fell at work, Sep. 24, 2015. I work in a hospital.  I went airborne back words, like a football player being clipped from behind.  I landed on the back of my head, and upper /neck/back.   My head bounced two times that I remember, it may have been three times off a concrete floor.  I am missing some of the event, and it is believed that I passed out.  I remember black spots, the wind being knocked out of me.  At some point I remember a lot of people surrounding me, I was on the floor, I think I was shaking, my uniform was becoming wet.  People were attempting to sit me up, move me, but I think I heard myself say do not move me my head hit the floor hard.  I was crying, they shoved a pillow under my head, that hurt really bad, I was nauseated, my vision was blurred.  Sounds around me were not normal, they were hyper loud and the lights seemed brighter.  I was moved to a gurney, then to the ED.  CT, was normal. I was sent home with family.  My condition declined over weeks, and the first three months... etc. It hurts to think, to concentrate, to task, to think of words to speak with.  At times my speech is better and as I tire it worsens.  I sleep less than an hour at a time.  My hair fell out in clumps, and is still falling out.  I had a large hematoma parietal, and occipital areas.  It hurts to touch my hair with a comb or brush.  The brain spasms, cramping, squeezing, burning, sharp stabbing, pulsating pains are beyond description, The roaring nose in my brain at times drowns out external noise.  The short term memory laps nearly cost us our home.  I left soup on the stove to heat, forgot it. This does not scratch the surface.  Thank you to everyone for your post. 

It feels really good reading my thoughts. TBI's are awful injuries & those suffering I feel your pain. I was in a severe auto accident in 2005 & since that time my life has never been the same. Seems to always be a struggle.

I had a head injury 3 years ago on my job  and ever since then my life changed for the worst. My supervisor was short tempered with me and jumped on my back for  not doing things right. He said "I have a disability and it don't stop me." He had gout in his feet when he ate rich foods. He thought I could just get over it. I had headaches, short term memory loss and I got confused easily. This past summer my job was cut along with 20 other people. I moved away and resettled in a place I thought would make me happier. I prayed for a job and God lead and employer which hired me, but I am having a hard time with my supervisor. He has little patience with me. I haven't told him about my injury, but tonight at work I will. I don't know if it will help or hurt me. I am just going to put it in the Lord's hands. I do get deeply depressed and feel like I'm no good anymore. Just because you look good on the outside don't mean your good on the inside. No one cares about people with head injuries, they just think we are lazy. 

I could not read it all because of my brain. But I am crying tears of joy because this feels like home.
 

I had a deep breath of I'm not alone, thank you. It's been 17 years and I have managed to hold 8 jobs.  I've quit 6, been let go from one soon to be two.

I was in a coma for 4 days, I believe, it was after being hit by a vehicle while I was walking in May of 98, I was drunk, and Dr said being drunk probably saved my life because I didn't tense up, yet at the same time I think it did kill me.

I look fine and I can't tell employers during interview I am brain injured, or I get no jobs. I am told don't use it as an excuse you've had jobs, you can walk and talk fine, and it's been 17 years.

There was a part of my rehabilitation where I needed to talk to a brain injury survivor, and he told me he had lost everything his wife, house, job, kids. I find myself now in my birth country without family, having to make new friends after having the same group of friends for at least 20 years.

I wish people knew how I felt

Hi there my name is Kyle I had a bad accident motorbike I find it difficult to remember what people are saying about anything it is very hard

This page is extremely helpful, and it describes exactly what I'm going through. I'm just reaching the first year mark of recovery from my tbi and it seems so hard for people to understand what I'm going through. They all expect me to be better by now but it is so hard having to relearn what I forgot how to do and rebuild problem solving skills.

I'm so glad that this page exists and I can share it with people so that they can get a sense of why I'm acting so differently than I was, and why going through university right now is the hardest thing I've ever done. This is amazing and the huge amount of people posting here makes me feel so much better now that I know I am not alone.

I am so sorry for what you guys have to go through my heart breaks when i read these stories 

From a 13 year old kid

My husband and I were married for 4 months when he had an automobile accident that he was not suppose to survive, but he did. He had numerous injuries but the worst of all was a frontal brain injury. I have been an operating room nurse for 19 years, nothing prepared me for what my children and myself have been through in the last 8 months. We are existing not living!! Walking on eggshells and his reality isn't our reality. He is mean, selfish and the most arrogant man I have ever met. I keep praying everyday that my "other husband " will return. Well that hasn't happen and I am not sure how much more I will be able to take. I love this man with all my heart but loving him that much isn't going to change the situation. He has severed all ties with friends and family and no one wants to be around him including me. I feel the whole situation stinks and just pray that it will get better or pray that I have the strength to walk away.

Thank you  for the information.  We're just starting this journey with our 19 yr old daughter.  She was in a car accident on Oct.22,2015  & received a concussion with loss of consciousness. She is so frustrated with how slowly she is recovering.  She is dealing with short term memory loss & headaches.  She forgets to eat & it's harder for her to put things in a timeline. Like what day she did something, she gets mixed up & thinks she just did it & it was several days ago. All these articles are helping me to understand her battle a lot better & some solutions to some of her challenges.

So I was struck by a car while on my skateboard about 6 months ago. I fractured my ribs, jaw, knee, shoulder blade and suffered a TBI. What bothers me the most is the aftermath of the accident. People just don't understand you. They think you are the same person. They don't realize that your whole life changed. I recently have fought multiple friends. It's just a tragedy. I can't make anyone understand my disability. It's a tough life for all TBI survivors.

That was the perfect definition of a head injury with brain being in a cast.

I'm retired army vet from no seat belt riding with friends after getting off work in 1993 now with recent surgery getting baclofen pump in will hopefully answer my prayers getting out of my wheel chair.

So like some people never even knowing that I even have a TBI unless I told them.

Please stay in  touch like to get to know some more about you

Jermaine

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