9 Things NOT to Say to Someone with a Brain Injury

were accomodations or fmla options from your employer?

Two plants i am researching for tbi are vinca and huperzine . Sounds amazing from what ive learned so far .

After consulting a doctor honestly try cannabis

Thank you, Evie, for sharing your story. I don't have any suggestions at this time, though I've had 9 concussions. I have gained support from Facebook groups and from interactions with others in those groups. Recovery is gradual, so celebrating small victories has been great for me. Actually, meditation has helped me a lot too; in reduces my anxiety by the end of the session, which helps me sleep. I will be thinking about you...

Wally,
You have every right to be happy. I have suffered 2 brain surgeries and at first how I was treated bothered me. So I got a mohawk dyed my hair purple and made everyone interested comment on my scar or hair witch led to the scar.
Now everyone interested knows and can form their own opinion

Jason,
From where I stand your lucky.
I'm now 53 when I was 49 I was in the FL keys and got mugged by 2 to 6 people depending on which police report you read.
What I have learned to do.

Remember, understanding a disability is easy if you have it.
You can only educate them and be educated possibly?

You don't have to defend yourself. I know the feeling very very well. Your scar is on the outside but his scar much bigger on his inside. You are so much more than a scar. Remember that people like that are weak inside and luagh it off when he tries to bully you. You are stronger inside than he will ever be. But with great strength comes great responsibility so don't be mean back and play his game. You are better than that. The joy in that secret is huge

Going through the same stuff. It helps knowing that we are stronger inside than them. They act like that because they are the weak ones. Not us. We fight bigger battles inside every day than they will ever know. Keep the strength we have inside and we will always be stronger than them. And remember great power comes with great responsibility. We don't need anyone to feel as bad as we know people can feel. Stay strong buddy.

Please Dont off yourself, that's not going to fix the problem. I have a mom who treated me the same way and after sitting her down looking her in the eye I told her I felt everything she ever told me and it hurts. Maybe you should try to do the same. Let her know that having a TBI is difficult already and her treating you the way she does is not helping. I will pray it works out for the better and good luck.

since tbi 2005 i can’t do anything like before. my job was seven days a wk for at least 28 out of 31 yrs when i exercised thoroughbreds. the only vacations were when i broke a major bone so it was also w/o pay But i couldn’t wait to heal and get back on a horse again.Got to work by 3:30am to muck 12-23 stalls before track opened for training at 6am-it made/kept me strong enough so no trainer ever had to find a guy to get on the tuff ones. i’ve lost my muscle,strength,coordination and memory comes and goes. can’t fight my way out of a paper bag now. it’s like 2steps forward and 20 steps backwards. i’m so disgusted and 80% of the time i really wish they left me on the hill where the pony girl grabbed my rein and flipped the horse on top of me. i was Always first at work not just at the first barn i went to but first one in the whole barn area. what drs don’t get is adrenal fatigue goes hand in hand with traumatic brain injury And the first clue is you can’t get going But you don’t feel sick and it took years to find that out but so what it still happens so i miss most the day and feel worthless because of it. i really hate living..no purpose no matter how hard i try. really don’t know why i’m even writing this

Good luck with all you do I’m taking care of my friend Paul who suffered a tbi dry dick fell off an air craft carrier they do not help him I’ve tried many areas I’m the one person who understands and sees what he’s going through what he deals with.. I can only say through my experience with Paul is stay as strong as possible God.Speed

I sustained a brain injury in 2000 after a roof weighing 1 1/2 Tons collapsed on me. My former husband 'accidently' ran into the structure twice with a heavy road grader after sending me underneath to rake. He became my caregiver, even though we had been separated. My family fought I was fine, except for nerve and structural injuries. He moved me back to our home on10 acres and abandoned me, turning off water to house, removing the roof for a year, and much more. He had me convinced I was crazy. My mother became disabled 4 years later and since I 'wasn't working' I went to stay with her. My mother, meaning well, but always saying the wrong things by putting me down. I became so self conscious about talking and saying something wrong that I isolated myself from family and friends. I went to a wedding shower for my niece and I said something that my niece's friend misunderstood, yet I still do not know what I said. I was interpreted as saying something negative about my niece's upcoming wedding. I was thrilled about her marriage and husband, yet I was not invited to her wedding and had to find someone to drive my mother and sister, I was not invited to her baby shower. I have been shunned by the family ever since. Having time to think since then, I wondered if my mother might have helped the situation if she had explained to my niece that the injury to my brain, words for what I mean come out wrongt. I can say something, totally unaware of the words I use, which I did often, and remind her how thrilled I was about her martiage. My sister lectured me about using my filter to manage my words. Other's may disagree, but I personally feel you could mention to a hostess, a friend, or even the person offended that because words can be difficult to use correctly after a brain injury do to the part of the brain that suffered the insult, to please not be offended or take my words spoken literally, instead, ask me what I meant before judging and condemning, especially words that may be contrary to what I mean. While in a BI group, a couple members would constantly speak out in argumentative rude tones. Being aware of their particular injuries, no one was offended or uncomforable. Unfortunately, I cannot live only with brain injured people who understand, I have the rest of the world to live in, too. Explaining a brain injury to others is fruitles, how can they possibly understand? Although, to inform them that a person with a brain injury is likely already aware they can offend people without being meaning to, some may understand. My sister tried the nudging and giving me signals when I said things wrong. Instead, she confused me since I could not remember what the nudge was for of her signals. I was only aware that I messed up but where? I have a couple friends who are aware of my injury. They do not understand everything that I go through, but they do have compassion and do not judge me if I say something the wrong way. One friend actually spoke up and said, "On yes, I know what you mean, . . . ." Then she would repeat what my message was intended to be, and smoothed everything out. It has been 19 years since my injury, yet I was traumatized by being shunned by family, which I felt could have been avoided if someone in my family could have explained my injury to them. I tried, unsuccessfully. It was too emotional an issue for me, and I felt as though I was in a defensive mode trying to make excuses for screwing up. Now, I basically am alone. I shop at night when stores are not crowded, and I turn down invitations for gatherings. I am learning that being alone is not good for people. I need a place that is simple, where someone could direct me if I get overwhelmed, yet have some feeling of independence. Hopefully, not having to live in a relatives home, which would be hard. I also want to mention the mother who's son was a boxer. Neuropsychologists are doctor's that have diagnosed my issues that are most difficult for me. Your son needs to be officially diagnosed in order to get the right treatment, which could be medication, rehabilitation, which does help tremendously.
Sorry my post is so long but it takes me a lot of words to say what I am trying to address.
Thanks,
Marcia

Try to remember the situation and see if it is a recurring situation, if so it might jab their emotion in some way, either try to talk about it to them, or I find it best to talk about it as if you are talking about someone else having this problem, if they agree that they also find it difficult then they understand, if they agree and don’t seem to recognize it about themselves, they most likely don’t realise. Be careful not to offend them when talking to them because they can anger quickly, talk sistematicaly and carefully and just let them know, if they seem to get upset, lead the conversation elsewhere.