Sometimes if someone does or says something about my husband's traumatic brain injury he freaks out and may hit or scream. I am constantly worried he cannot control his temper.
It would be helpful to have a professional work through this with him. Most likely he is having trouble coping with and adjusting to his injury. It is likely he is still angry about his injury and so when others bring it up, he lashes out. This is an understandable response even though not an appropriate one. He needs professional help to learn to cope with his injury and get over his anger about it. It is also likely that when others comment on it, he is making inferences that they are insulting him or trying to hurt him or be mean. Again, a professional would be helpful in teaching him how to see it differently. In the meantime, you may want to warn family and friends not to say anything about the injury to him. If professional therapy is not an option, I would suggest planning ahead with your husband something he could do or say the next time someone comments on it. For instance, he can do an internal mantra (e.g. "they don't mean anything by it"). Or he can excuse himself to go to the bathroom and do some breathing exercises, or he can simply say, I'd rather not talk about that.
Dr. Dawn Neumann is an Associate Professor at Indiana University School of Medicine in the Department of Physical Medicine and Rehabilitation and the Research Director at the Rehabilitation Hospital of Indiana.