My husband’s emotional reactions are so unpredictable. How can I keep that from damaging our relationship?


I feel like I have to walk on eggshells around my husband because his emotional reaction is so unpredictable. What can I do to keep this situation from damaging our relationship?


As hard and as frustrating as it may be, try not to take it personally. This is common after a brain injury. Understanding that is a result of his injury can help a little bit. Try to learn as much as you can about brain injury to help you understand where he is coming from and the challenges he is dealing with that might be contributing to this behavior. Have you told your husband how his reactions hurt your feelings? He might be able to provide insight into what is going on inside him. It could be an opportunity for discussion. It is hard to say what is causing his reactions because there could be many reasons, but sometimes descriptions like these suggest he might possibly be misinterpreting things you do or say. So in your mind, your actions are benign, but he may perceive something else you don't realize. The bottom line is anger after a brain injury is complicated. Pay attention to other possible causes for irritability and frustration, such as fatigue, anxiety, depression, slowed cognitive processing. Counseling sessions with a psychologist experienced in brain injury rehabilitation may be helpful in providing clarity and strategies suited to your husband's needs.  


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Posted on BrainLine November 13, 2019.