Will Anyone Want to Date Me After a Brain Injury?

Having a brain injury can sometimes make people feel differently about themselves, perhaps less confident, which can make meeting people challenging. Adam recommends slowly pushing yourself to engage in social activities ... and gaining back some confidence.

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I value every comment here. I'm a young man, suffered a TBI in a car accident in 2017, but I'm fortunate enough to be alive. Now I live with a disability I have accepted myself!! All I can say is that this situation taught me that the only people who matter to me are my parents.

Hi, I have a friend who suffered a TBI about a year ago. He says he is in love with me after getting to know him during his recovery. Does he know what he's saying? He seems to really mean it and I love who he is, but I don't know if this is who he is or this is his injury.

I am a disabled combat veteran, and part of the Wounded Warrior Project. I recently started attending events locally (SC area) after taking a 7-year hiatus from WWP. I met a fellow warrior, who suffered a severe brain injury, that is pretty debilitating, causing him to be wheelchair bound, and needing 24 hr care. He has expressed his loneliness to me many times, and being a very religious and God fearing man, he has turned to prayer, asking God for a companion. I myself do not share his beliefs, nor his method of trying to obtain a companion, so here I am on this site, wanting to ask if anyone knows of some sort of online community of singles with brain injuries that he may be able to find and connect with someone who either shares his challenges, or is the type of compassionate and caring woman wanting to be with, and help with, someone who has a brain injury. Any advice I can give him would be greatly appreciated.

Adam! Wonderful. I am a social worker for the Army. I often wish I could address the general population (of females:) about being on the receiving end of what you suggest here. Thank you for starting here. I'll stay tuned and use these posts as a resource for my guys!
Thank you for serving and i was in a coma 21 days and my mood changes and that is what i need to do know that i am 1 of the very fortunate human life comes and it go's.I need to work on my defects not yours or the next human.............end
Just a few weeks ago, I met the man of my dreams. Sadly, he suffers from PTSD and TBI due to an explosion that he was victim to while serving. He has depression and social anxiety, so it's been difficult getting through to him lately. But just during the few wonderful times we've spent together, I truly know he's the one for me. He's had a hard time dating because a lot of women don't see past his challenges. I do. I can see straight into his heart. And there I see the most loving, kind, intelligent, funny, creative, gentle, brave and handsome man I've ever met in my life. I know he's going through a very hard time right now...I pray for him every single day, morning and night. He's always on my mind. I won't ever give up on him or ever stop praying for his full recovery and restoration. I would give anything to hear him laugh, see his amazing smile and stare into his beautiful brown eyes again. One day with him would be worth a lifetime of waiting... Ashley A

That is beautiful. What is the current status of your relationship? I'm currently in the same boat.

I am a female with a tbi. Car accident, fall. It is difficult to believe I can find someone when I have a mild tbi. I worked in mental health for years, now cannot. Thank you for starting the conversation.

I am 23 and have a tbi after a car accident in April of 2018 life is so hard

TBI 7-6-19, wife divorced me, had to re-learn EVERYTHING! how to walk and talk clearly, drive....so on... dating now.....well, different story. I've been going out and traveling by myself, my speech is improving, also walking! I drive legally now! Just waiting for next piece to fall into place

When I was young 14 yrs old a car hit me from behind I had to relearn speech an walk all over have a head injury.Then when I was 39 I had a real bad car exsident cracked my 7 c spinal.Doctors an others didn't think I was going to move or walk again.I had to relearn how to move an walk again, an I did have a difficulty with my fingers a little an I'm walking.I thank the Lord...

Very similar circumstances and am seeing this comment as I’m googling brain injury info 4 years later. How are you doing today? (I hope awesome and the next pieces have fallen into place)

Yes, people will want to date you! My boyfriend of three years suffered a TBI, and while things changed and were difficult to adjust to, you can make it work! We are happier than ever. Just make sure your significant other knows you need patience above all else
I've met a very sweet man with TBI...and nothing that he's told me, so far, would scare me away, except that he said he has had problems with being violent when he's too upset. I can't tell you how much I respect him, in words. But it makes me nervous that he might be violent. We haven't met in person yet, and it's all very new...but I like him...a lot. I'm very conflicted about meeting him, though.
For the non-TBI person, read all you can on TBI, go slow, and be patient. Even though my 3 year relationship ended abruptly, I would do it again with some changes. I wouldn't be afraid to call him on the carpet like anyone else. I would ask some of the hard questions earlier. I will admit that this relationship was one of the hardest things I've gone through - because how some folks with a TBI might react or respond isn't always going to line up with what society calls the norm. Lots of patience on both sides will be needed as you get used to the other one - lots of patience... but it's worth it.
I've had a TBI going on 21 years now. My advice to those who also have a TBI be patient and don't rush into a relationship. Yes it may be lonely but it is well worth the wait so many take advantage of people who have this injury. I myself have time and time again been taken advantage of. Not only in dating but also throughout my last marriage. I have been on my own now for 10 years with help. And I will wait patiently for the person God has for me.
Our son had a TBI at the age of 15, he is now 47, He has asked about dating. He has 24 hrs supervision, but can walk, talk etc. As for hygiene, he takes care of himself. Just so lonely.
People with TBI can be violent but most of them like anyone goes through a process of learning again. Tools tools and more tools will help them find that patience and lack of fear (for me it's the high emotions and #1 is the fear!) to react normally and just like everyone else. 'Tis kinda like being a kid again and going through things for the first time, sometimes over and over again. There is also a frustration of why you may not have the same skills as those in your age group. The best thing is to keep at it and learn from your not so successful moments. Remember that you were injured and you have to rehab your brain just like any other body part, this one is just a bit more challenging. But so very worth it!
I suffered from a TBI accident 7 years ago. I was on an apartment building roof top one friday night during my 3rd year in college. I lost my balance and fell 35 ft. I was in the hospital for about a month. Then into rehab for 3 months. I'm living on my own now and have a part-time job but it's hard to find a guy who my age who can understand what I went through and my complications.
In 2008 I was in a near fatal accident and I was put in a coma for two months. I had to relearn how to walk plus I lost my left leg because of the car wreck. Later in 2013, I got a divorce. I am looking for a woman that has a TBI like me so we could be able to understand each other better.

I am looking for a man with TBI cause I think it would be easier to date someone who understands. After my accident im Sep., my significant other broke it off via text message. He assured me it was not due to the accident. :/ I feel like I can't even try online dating..how do you write that profile! Lol.

In June of 17 I was in a severe motorcycle accident that I was given virtually no expectation of surviving.. I beat all odds but where I was hospitalized the best outcome was that if I lived I would never be able to care for myself.. I was basically just thrown back together and have had to have surgeries to repair what was done incorrectly.. My family and friends have all turned their backs on me.. I have been told that I am worthless and unwanted.. I live in constant pain and cannot get any rest.. What helps more than anything is having someone to talk to.. Honestly, I feel like the same person that I ever was other than the never ending pain and rejection.. What occurred was I was impacted and went head first into a guard rail that had a loose bolt that penetrated my skull about 4 inches, my skull was split and my brain exposed, my Jaw was shattered, my neck and back where broken, and both shoulders were extremely shattered.. I did what several doctors have said was impossible and fought a hard battle of recovery and was released from the hospital extremely early and not even offered any rehab treatment of any kind.. It has been two years since the accident and I am to a point where I wish I would have died on impact instead of living this life of loneliness and rejection.. I would give anything if I felt like I actually had someone in my life that tried to care about me.. I'm sorry for the length of my reply, but my life has become a living hell and I have no clue what direction I should take....

My name is Kent. I sufferd a tbi. from a motorcycle accident. And I am in the same boat as you.

I am looking for the same type of women as he is
I recently got a TBI I'm 26 got it Oct 29th 2016 it's been almost 7 months and I used to be an out going guy adventures and going out and hanging out now I have social anxiety anxious all the time I have trimers from the injury and just scared at times for no reason emotional rollercoaster fur sure and it is lonely iv shyed away from relationships let alone even being around woman and I never used to be this way I hope and pray for everyone that things change for the better cause it's really screwing with me ....